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December 4, 2012

Write Out Your Holiday Stress

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Many of us will go home for Christmas traveling many miles, making promises to get along with everyone, hoping that our presents will be received with appreciation. But holidays are not really TV commercials. For too many people holidays with family can be stressful and dreaded but, nevertheless, we courageously set out to see if maybe this year we can change how the holiday season plays out. I’m all for positive thinking but a systemic dysfunction is still a systemic dysfunction. Do what you can then when the need arises do something different.

Here are some tips:

1. write out the holiday you don’t want to relive

2. write in detail the holiday you would like to have

3. write a list of promises to yourself, not what you want others to do and say differently for you sake, but what you can do and say to take better care of yourself if matters get stressful.

It is okay to leave the house, take a walk, do something creative like build a snowman if there is snow or walk around the neighborhood to see other people’s decorations. Go take a break and visit a neighbor or take yourself out to lunch. Do not try harder to make things right; when holidays have never really been right.

Be patient and kind with yourself. If you relapse into crazy reactions – well – perhaps it is because you are putting pressure on yourself to be sane in an insane situation. The only way to keep your sanity is to get out or view it as someone else’s family.

Until next time,

Happy Holiday,



1 Comment »

  1. Beautiful and so needed. This is a post that has no shelf life. It could and should be posted around every major holiday. Perfect. After the Thanksgiving I just had, I could have used this to help me make it better. Thanks for posting on this.

    Comment by John Blink Speasmaker — December 8, 2013 @ 5:39 pm | Reply

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